Don’t worry, I’m not going to get too philosophical on you but the saying, “If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there, does it still make a sound?” has been on my mind lately. Less about trees and forests and more about life experiences and social media. We live in such a crazy world now, with most of our lives being shared online, that sometimes it feels as if an experience never actually happened unless we post about it.
For example, if you were snowboarding completely alone on the most epic powder day taking face shots for hours but no one witnessed it and you didn’t post a photo on Instagram would it still be as satisfying to you? I think most people would reactively say, YES of course! Yet we all still feel the need to share every moment of our lives via the internet (and for those of you that don’t ever post updates…you know you’re still scrolling to see what others are doing).
For me this is bigger than just social media, I’ve always needed validation from my parents, peers, teachers and bosses to know that I’m doing a good job. It’s as if I don’t feel like what I’m doing is important unless I’m being validated for it. If no one knows what I’m up to then how’ll they know how to perceive me? Buuuuut that’s a discussion for another time.
I had this conversation with my husband recently and he isn’t on social media much and doesn’t require as much validation as I do. Therefore, he thinks an awesome experience is simply that and one to be banked in the memory vault. Looks like I have some learning to do from him about self-satisfaction.
On some level we all crave recognition and social media gives us a way to be recognized on the daily. It’s the ultimate form of validation but feels really empty and superficial. So I think I’ll start to enjoy my experiences for what they are, with the people I’m surrounded by and not as a way to gain praise. But I will still post photos, cause HEY, it’s the world we live in!